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Probably spurred on by the approaching holiday, a friend of mine who believes herself to be the consumate matchmaker of all time told me that I needed to send her my laundry list of 20 "ideal man for me" traits. (I suspect she's been reading some sort of go-out-and-git-yerself-a-man book.) So, for the sake of getting her off my back for a while, this is what I sent:
1. Someone as smart or smarter than me. Someone who likes to read more than just the newspaper.
2. Age group: Five years on either side of my own.
3. Someone who is not raising children, who does not want any more children, but who has no problem with mine. (That's usually the dealbreaker.)
4. Someone with no freaky ex's, hang-ups about ex's, or ex's who are not really ex's.
5. No drug users, alcoholics, or men with criminal histories.
6. Someone with an expansive sense of humor.
7. Someone who likes to travel.
8. Someone who is spiritual, but not dogmatically religious. (Pagan tendencies are a definite plus.)
9. Someone who is not in therapy...of any kind.
10. Someone who has a semi-normal relationship with their parents, or who is an amazingly well-adjusted orphan.
11. Someone who likes to be outdoors and do outdoorsy things: e.g. gardening, camping, fishing, swimming, etc.
12. Someone with all their teeth or reasonable facsimiles thereof.
13. Someone who would be willing to relocate. I've moved enough...I'm staying here.
14. Someone who wants to buy an old barn and convert it into a house.
15. Someone who likes to ride horses.
16. Someone who is kind to animals and people.
17. Someone who loves living in the country but likes to visit the city.
18. Some liberal arts background would be nice, but not absolutely necessary.
19. Someone who earns about the same or more than me.
20. Someone who is optimistic and good-natured.
So I'll let her do the looking for me...most days I'd be happy just to find a man to take the trash out every other day...but a gal's gotta have standards. ; )
1. Someone as smart or smarter than me. Someone who likes to read more than just the newspaper.
2. Age group: Five years on either side of my own.
3. Someone who is not raising children, who does not want any more children, but who has no problem with mine. (That's usually the dealbreaker.)
4. Someone with no freaky ex's, hang-ups about ex's, or ex's who are not really ex's.
5. No drug users, alcoholics, or men with criminal histories.
6. Someone with an expansive sense of humor.
7. Someone who likes to travel.
8. Someone who is spiritual, but not dogmatically religious. (Pagan tendencies are a definite plus.)
9. Someone who is not in therapy...of any kind.
10. Someone who has a semi-normal relationship with their parents, or who is an amazingly well-adjusted orphan.
11. Someone who likes to be outdoors and do outdoorsy things: e.g. gardening, camping, fishing, swimming, etc.
12. Someone with all their teeth or reasonable facsimiles thereof.
13. Someone who would be willing to relocate. I've moved enough...I'm staying here.
14. Someone who wants to buy an old barn and convert it into a house.
15. Someone who likes to ride horses.
16. Someone who is kind to animals and people.
17. Someone who loves living in the country but likes to visit the city.
18. Some liberal arts background would be nice, but not absolutely necessary.
19. Someone who earns about the same or more than me.
20. Someone who is optimistic and good-natured.
So I'll let her do the looking for me...most days I'd be happy just to find a man to take the trash out every other day...but a gal's gotta have standards. ; )
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Teeth Are Nice
Mejor sola que mal acompa?ada.
Loosely translated: Better alone than in bad company. : )
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what part of Texas, if I can be a little nosy?
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the Medina-Kerrville-Comfort corridor is what I usually claim as my stomping grounds.
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teeth are important!
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-Never call a young man, he should ALWAYS call you.
-Never accept a date for Saturday unless it is before Thursday (e.g. Wednesday night is the last night to get asked)
-Never do anything more than kiss on the first date
-Always have enough money to get home (just in case), but the young man pays for the date
I still cringe when I have to call even guys who are just friends...years of brainwashing to get over, eh?
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building ms. right?!
if you are ever looking to swing the other direction, (except for #14) you have just described me to a tee! :)
admirable qualities indeed!
p.s. look at the new trick i just learned!
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cate, sweet cate
what's the viable candidate situation like where you're at anyhow?
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but wait there's more..
1. Someone as smart or smarter than me. Someone who likes to read more than just the newspaper. ----- there's a certain smart i want, pretty much the intelligence it takes to manage the 1,2&3 i mentioned above. the rest is poiks. i tend to end up with tech/sci geniuses tho, even tho my brain's remaining chutzpah seems to lean more erm.. arty? sociology? i brainstorm ideas i'll never make happen. i'm good at helping boot a programmer over a hump, & soming up w/tests to find bugs/test code.. i duno.. i thought about being a project manager but i'm too much of an intolerant asshole. :)
2. Age group: Five years on either side of my own. ----- pragmatically yeah after working with people half my age i totally grok Generation Gap. otoh i'm 6-1/2 yrs older than my mate, who's more mature than i am in a lotta ways. 5-1/2 older than the dear friend (i hate calling him secondary coz in my heart he's not, it's about knowing what i believe in and trusting my decisions to weather mixed feelings/confusion in the long run, which reinforces itself -- can't be going through incarnations like kleenex ya know..). my ex-husband was i think 5 yrs older than me and really emotionally immature.
3. Someone who is not raising children, who does not want any more children, but who has no problem with mine. (That's usually the dealbreaker.) ----- i'm trying to ignore my wierd mixed feeling about kids. i'd love to make some me & cheetah's if someone else baked em & bore em & we had a nanny coz in darwinian terms, i'd probably forget them in a field & they'd get et by something. taking care of myself is challenge enough, the times i can take care of cheetah blow my mind entirely. i know i'm not up for raising a kid. would love to donate though. :)
4. Someone with no freaky ex's, hang-ups about ex's, or ex's who are not really ex's. ----- i have a fuhreaky ex, but i also left that ex about 2-1/2 years into therapy & he didn't wanna go where i was going, even after a lotta chances to come around. my mate has a fucked up close friend he was sorta hung up on (but i mean then he met me and figured out there was way more to be had than the agony and drama peppered with occasional brilliance). i hear guys complain about chicks going for assholes, i'd say guys go for crazy chicks.
5. No drug users, alcoholics, or men with criminal histories. ----- no curent alcoholics, escapism doesn't fly with me.. errr the other two are good ideas but could mean anything w/context. then again i don't have anything remotely resembling a badge. or kids.
6. Someone with an expansive sense of humor. ----- for me it's someone who can actually get through to my stunted irony faculties, if they can figure out my humour, wuhu!
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8. Someone who is spiritual, but not dogmatically religious. (Pagan tendencies are a definite plus.) ----- romantic to the point of understanding magic & the spirit works ok, i can't ask someone to be spiritual since i'm a morbid barely post-nihilist w/a nasty case of zen i'm trying to shake, tho being wierdly superstitious (i think it's childhood wierdness + adhd actually). my mate's too existentialist to even call it that, my sweetheart is wiccan, i'm hoping to catch a case of believing in god(z) etc from him. :)
9. Someone who is not in therapy...of any kind. ----- i'm actually heading back in (unfinished business i'm tired of blowing off, just stuff left unresolved when i moved north & had to leave a great therapist behind). i've got a ton of admiration from someone willing to tackle shit, or even clever enough to just be going for the skill-building. plus i love watching people grow & learn & discover themselves. now if they're like, screwed up and not coming up for air, that's different.
10. Someone who has a semi-normal relationship with their parents, or who is an amazingly well-adjusted orphan. ----- it's kinda nifty but a background i don't have a clue how to relate to. makes me happy tho to see there's people with good family, i ask a lotta questions about what it's like. mine were too wierd to even peg in a category; weak people in unfortunate circumstances.
11. Someone who likes to be outdoors and do outdoorsy things: e.g. gardening, camping, fishing, swimming, etc. ----- i dig it but they gotta be kinda 50/50 and very enthusiastic about both. :)
12. Someone with all their teeth or reasonable facsimiles thereof. ---- my parents took me to a whack orthodontist, it took me a decade to believe i wasn't hideous b/c of my healthy but way misaligned teeth. i tend to think a lot about what it must be like to have normal teeth. i've been told my snaggletooth is cute enough i kinda like it too now. having teeth that lean inward sucks in this age of poofy lips tho. grr. i've considered buying a cute lil overbite. or some lips. vanity is such a pain in the butt...
13. Someone who would be willing to relocate. I've moved enough...I'm staying here. ----- i'm way in love with seattle.. otoh, standing agreement is i'd go anywhere to see cheetah in a job that makes him ecstatic, esp if it puts me through music school. outide our relationship something like that would too easily be a dependant situation, i've seen it blow couples up.
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15. Someone who likes to ride horses. ----- lazily cruise the backroads on motorcycles
16. Someone who is kind to animals and people. ----- absolutely, though my perspective on what constitutes kind isn't neccs. a common one.
17. Someone who loves living in the country but likes to visit the city. ----- vice versa for me, cheetah too :)
18. Some liberal arts background would be nice, but not absolutely necessary. ----- i'm LD so i love academia but am petrified of it. if the grok and appreciation are there that's the ticket. cheetah's got a more sophisticated background, i'm more of an effusive and opinionated spaz.
19. Someone who earns about the same or more than me. ----- nonissue w/o context
20. Someone who is optimistic and good-natured. ----- hrm, my mate is someone people adore, but he's no fluffhead. i'm surly, moody, morbidly depressed, and not even sure what good-natured means. :) i like honest people though i hate vampiric button-pushers (which i spose makes them dishonest but i've known a few and they can be dazzling when they're not threatened by you or want something from you or just being vindictive).
hee i told you i wasn't going anywhere reallllly....
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And I am SUPREMELY HAPPY about that! Yay!!! : )
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a rush and a push and this land is ours...
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