since i'm sorta journaling through other folk's journals & using my journal to be goofy and artyfarty in, i figured..
1. Someone as smart or smarter than me. Someone who likes to read more than just the newspaper. ----- there's a certain smart i want, pretty much the intelligence it takes to manage the 1,2&3 i mentioned above. the rest is poiks. i tend to end up with tech/sci geniuses tho, even tho my brain's remaining chutzpah seems to lean more erm.. arty? sociology? i brainstorm ideas i'll never make happen. i'm good at helping boot a programmer over a hump, & soming up w/tests to find bugs/test code.. i duno.. i thought about being a project manager but i'm too much of an intolerant asshole. :) 2. Age group: Five years on either side of my own. ----- pragmatically yeah after working with people half my age i totally grok Generation Gap. otoh i'm 6-1/2 yrs older than my mate, who's more mature than i am in a lotta ways. 5-1/2 older than the dear friend (i hate calling him secondary coz in my heart he's not, it's about knowing what i believe in and trusting my decisions to weather mixed feelings/confusion in the long run, which reinforces itself -- can't be going through incarnations like kleenex ya know..). my ex-husband was i think 5 yrs older than me and really emotionally immature. 3. Someone who is not raising children, who does not want any more children, but who has no problem with mine. (That's usually the dealbreaker.) ----- i'm trying to ignore my wierd mixed feeling about kids. i'd love to make some me & cheetah's if someone else baked em & bore em & we had a nanny coz in darwinian terms, i'd probably forget them in a field & they'd get et by something. taking care of myself is challenge enough, the times i can take care of cheetah blow my mind entirely. i know i'm not up for raising a kid. would love to donate though. :) 4. Someone with no freaky ex's, hang-ups about ex's, or ex's who are not really ex's. ----- i have a fuhreaky ex, but i also left that ex about 2-1/2 years into therapy & he didn't wanna go where i was going, even after a lotta chances to come around. my mate has a fucked up close friend he was sorta hung up on (but i mean then he met me and figured out there was way more to be had than the agony and drama peppered with occasional brilliance). i hear guys complain about chicks going for assholes, i'd say guys go for crazy chicks. 5. No drug users, alcoholics, or men with criminal histories. ----- no curent alcoholics, escapism doesn't fly with me.. errr the other two are good ideas but could mean anything w/context. then again i don't have anything remotely resembling a badge. or kids. 6. Someone with an expansive sense of humor. ----- for me it's someone who can actually get through to my stunted irony faculties, if they can figure out my humour, wuhu!
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Date: 2001-02-09 04:27 am (UTC)1. Someone as smart or smarter than me. Someone who likes to read more than just the newspaper. ----- there's a certain smart i want, pretty much the intelligence it takes to manage the 1,2&3 i mentioned above. the rest is poiks. i tend to end up with tech/sci geniuses tho, even tho my brain's remaining chutzpah seems to lean more erm.. arty? sociology? i brainstorm ideas i'll never make happen. i'm good at helping boot a programmer over a hump, & soming up w/tests to find bugs/test code.. i duno.. i thought about being a project manager but i'm too much of an intolerant asshole. :)
2. Age group: Five years on either side of my own. ----- pragmatically yeah after working with people half my age i totally grok Generation Gap. otoh i'm 6-1/2 yrs older than my mate, who's more mature than i am in a lotta ways. 5-1/2 older than the dear friend (i hate calling him secondary coz in my heart he's not, it's about knowing what i believe in and trusting my decisions to weather mixed feelings/confusion in the long run, which reinforces itself -- can't be going through incarnations like kleenex ya know..). my ex-husband was i think 5 yrs older than me and really emotionally immature.
3. Someone who is not raising children, who does not want any more children, but who has no problem with mine. (That's usually the dealbreaker.) ----- i'm trying to ignore my wierd mixed feeling about kids. i'd love to make some me & cheetah's if someone else baked em & bore em & we had a nanny coz in darwinian terms, i'd probably forget them in a field & they'd get et by something. taking care of myself is challenge enough, the times i can take care of cheetah blow my mind entirely. i know i'm not up for raising a kid. would love to donate though. :)
4. Someone with no freaky ex's, hang-ups about ex's, or ex's who are not really ex's. ----- i have a fuhreaky ex, but i also left that ex about 2-1/2 years into therapy & he didn't wanna go where i was going, even after a lotta chances to come around. my mate has a fucked up close friend he was sorta hung up on (but i mean then he met me and figured out there was way more to be had than the agony and drama peppered with occasional brilliance). i hear guys complain about chicks going for assholes, i'd say guys go for crazy chicks.
5. No drug users, alcoholics, or men with criminal histories. ----- no curent alcoholics, escapism doesn't fly with me.. errr the other two are good ideas but could mean anything w/context. then again i don't have anything remotely resembling a badge. or kids.
6. Someone with an expansive sense of humor. ----- for me it's someone who can actually get through to my stunted irony faculties, if they can figure out my humour, wuhu!