Still

[catelin]

The more time passes, the more I believe that there is no relationship nearly so strong nor as fragile as friendships between women. We can go for months without speaking, we can rage at each other, we can break each other's hearts. We can be horrible vile bitches, so absolutely cunning in our attempts to justify our own behavior. But in the end, we always forgive. In the end, nothing ever seems quite worth the stony silence between us. We manage to find that one small thread of understanding and we reel ourselves in, to each other and to that circle that we edge around but never break. This is what keeps me patient, with myself and my beloved sisters. I hear the women I love, even when there are no sounds between us. The language is always there and I never doubt that we will find our voices with one another when we need them.

Comments

[msparker.livejournal.com]

This is beautiful. I have no real life siblings so I have come to depend on my women friends as sisters. Just wanted to let you know that your words moved me. Your friends are very fortunate people.

[thepetey.livejournal.com]

you have just described the relationship between myself and all those i call true friends

[lifeisacabaret.livejournal.com]

Agreed.

[deanarae.livejournal.com]

If it wouldn't turn me into a complete blubbering mess, this is exactly what I would say at my best friend's wedding on Monday.

[chaizzilla.livejournal.com]

i've been sorta hoping you really felt this way

[catelin.livejournal.com]

With you, always. : )

[panderbear.livejournal.com]

This is exactly why i feel sad for those women who say they don't like and can't be friends with other women. I don't know where i'd be with out my girlfriends.

[eleanor.livejournal.com]

I think you're right, about women friends, and I don't know where I'd be without my gal pals; in the neighborhood, in the city, and scattered all over the country and world, real and virtual. But there is something else: I've known women to behave far more badly than men ever would. For me, there is a point past forgiveness, although I suppose that point exists at a place where friendship stops, where repeated behavior says that the person wishes me ill. I'm just always at a loss and very sad when women behave truly horrible to one another.

[catelin.livejournal.com]

Oh, sure. There's no doubt that people can go past that point of no return. That is a whole different story that doesn't end nearly so nicely. ; }

[fayzee.livejournal.com]

Cate! that can be so true. For most of my life, I lived it with and for men, after moving from the ranch, I found myselfe having women friends, and prior to this time, I had women as acquaintances, and maybe two as friends. I am amazed to find I truly like the women who have come into my life. With me, though, it is "pick and choose" and I give the same privilege to the women in my life. I hope I have something to contribute and I also need knowledgable, caring women in my life. If you ask me what I am trying to explain, I really can't tell you, I just know it surprised me when I discovered I truly like women...and I am so glad, it has enriched my life very much.

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[raindog.livejournal.com]

On an unrelated point -- I talked with our UPS guy this morning. He's able to hold onto the packages a few more days. Hopefully I'll be able to connect to get them close to Beaumont so they can pick up the boxes. It would be easy if they didn't need the stuff -- we could send to children in Baton Rouge. But the Beaumont homeless liason said they have students with almost nothing on a good day, and they're now down to absolutely nothing. So, we'll keep trying...and disregard my rather long-winded message from last week!

And on further unrelated news -- are you going to your folks for Christmas? I'm trying to sort out where we'll spend Christmas day, but don't want to invite ourselves if you want to do the grandparent thang!

Re: News and stuff

[catelin.livejournal.com]

I'm going to Midland for Thanksgiving and I'm staying here for Christmas. I can't think of anything better than to have you here for the Yuletide, baby!!! Yay!!!

Re: News and stuff

[raindog.livejournal.com]

I'll try to give a call sometime this week -- !

[wretchmuffin.livejournal.com]

This is eerily timely. Just what I needed, just when I needed it. Many thanks.