The reason why a cop's kid aspires to be a lawyer, while a lawyer's kid aspires to be a judge, is because children internalize their parents as the limit point of what is possible in the world, and then push a little bit beyond--but only a little. My mom loved us furiously, but she was so attached to her identity as a survivor that I grew up convinced that survival was the best anyone could hope for in life. She could have had so much more, but chose not to, ostensibly for my sake, and for the sake of my brothers. But you know what? We were miserable in that home. When she finally did divorce him at 47, we had a party. For ourselves.
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The reason why a cop's kid aspires to be a lawyer, while a lawyer's kid aspires to be a judge, is because children internalize their parents as the limit point of what is possible in the world, and then push a little bit beyond--but only a little. My mom loved us furiously, but she was so attached to her identity as a survivor that I grew up convinced that survival was the best anyone could hope for in life. She could have had so much more, but chose not to, ostensibly for my sake, and for the sake of my brothers. But you know what? We were miserable in that home. When she finally did divorce him at 47, we had a party. For ourselves.