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([personal profile] catelin Apr. 30th, 2009 06:55 am)
My grandfather is dying. He went into the hospital a few days before my wedding. My mom emailed me yesterday to tell me that he wasn't getting any better and that she didn't think he was going to make it out of the hospital. He's almost 97 years old. He lived on his own, drove his car (passed his last driver's test just a couple of months ago), and had a yoga instructor girlfriend right up until he went in. His old body has now just worn out, his heart is congested and his systems are failing. Still, true to form, he is the same hilarious Grandad that I have known all my life.

He'd been saying since he went in that he didn't think he was going to live much longer and how it was his time. So when the hospital peeps came to ask him about hospice, my dad says Grandad was genuinely shocked. "What is the matter with you people?" he asked, "What are you crazy? Are you trying to kill me?!?"

Hahahahaha!!!! That is soooooooooooo him.

He's had a wonderful, full life and he's at peace with himself and the universe. I'm okay with letting him go when he thinks it's time. He's done his job in spades with me, being the best grandad a little girl could have had and continuing to love me all through my life even when he didn't understand me.

(And before I forget with everything going on, I want to thank everyone for the kind words and expressions of love at our wedding! Thank you all for caring and being part of our lives!)

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the world will be a little less colorful with that old Lothario gone. wish i'd met him.

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Do they even make grandpas like this anymore!? I worry that this special breed of grandparents are gives me hope knowing that when we are old (except I will not have any grandchildren) that maybe there are those of us who will carry on with this...because I see so many kids now cheated out of this grandparent experience. This sort of character and integrity and love. My grandfather was the best role model I ever had in my life as a man, I lived with him as a child, but he died when I was three...and I remember everything about him. I am so grateful that I had him there, this caring loving non-threatening person, just there to care for you. I value that so much, even if it was such a short time.

You know what I love about LJ? This feeling that you get to know people in your friends families..this feeling of connection. Of love. And how good his life has been and what an amazing person he is. I wish him all the love and light and you and your family right now...because even when we are ready to lose someone, it's just not easy.

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What a lucky person you were to have such a special man in your life. He sounds like a real character. I imagine you grew up to be the wonderful person you are in part thanks to his love.



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